Self analysis
'Because the worst thing about being shy is when people mistake shyness for aloofness or arrogance.'
by Chloe, Athens, Greece
I stand guilty of this and have also been told that I sometimes appear as totally and utterly disinterested but those that have taken a chance on trying to get to know me have found me to be totally and utterly disinterested...just kidding.
Apparently my first impression is not always a good one but once people get to know me I seem to get on with nearly everybody but I sometimes feel like I'm holding back.
I can be very good at office banter and taking the 'piss'...I'm not sure how best to explain that phrase to my non UK visitors...affectionate joshing? teasing?
But take me to a party and unless I'm introduced to others I'll probably say hello to the people that I know and then eat all the celery and leave.
Yet I have this nagging sense of isolation as if I'm on the outside looking in.
Anyway that's all very deep and serious...
Lightness and frivolity to come...
by Chloe, Athens, Greece
I stand guilty of this and have also been told that I sometimes appear as totally and utterly disinterested but those that have taken a chance on trying to get to know me have found me to be totally and utterly disinterested...just kidding.
Apparently my first impression is not always a good one but once people get to know me I seem to get on with nearly everybody but I sometimes feel like I'm holding back.
I can be very good at office banter and taking the 'piss'...I'm not sure how best to explain that phrase to my non UK visitors...affectionate joshing? teasing?
But take me to a party and unless I'm introduced to others I'll probably say hello to the people that I know and then eat all the celery and leave.
Yet I have this nagging sense of isolation as if I'm on the outside looking in.
Anyway that's all very deep and serious...
Lightness and frivolity to come...
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8 Comments:
An ex used to complain that my shyness could be confused for stupidity so I had better start talking. Talk about a romantic! Needless to say, this did little to cure me of my shyness.
your book can be titled "Eats Celery and Leaves".
For US visitors, "taking the piss" is "making fun" of someone, usually only done to people as a sign of approval and acceptance
i used to be horrible shy. but then i found help and created a new non shy monster i call Me. it takes all sorts and if that is who you like being, no need to justify it. just be the you who makes you happy.
I commented on chloe's blog too - I think she must've been reading my mind. Thing is,if you asked people, some may say they'd be surprised that I'm shy...guess it all depends on the circumstances of meeting me.
sometimes this is a self fulfilling prophecy. you are shy, you think you are perceived as arrogant, people perceive you as arrogant, they talk to you and you think "i sound arrogant, let's drop this and eat some celery". it happens to me a lot. it's not good for friendships but it's not bad for prestige! xx
"Yet I have this nagging sense of isolation as if I'm on the outside looking in."
Are you reading my mind, Finn?
Parties are brutal for shy people. Don't bother going.
Parties have precut celery and possibilities...that's the only reason we go because just maybe you might find the girl of your dreams there...
More often than not she won't be there but you don't know so ultimately go anyway to the party...
Quite right, that's being honest, however I don't agree most guys go there looking for the girl of their dreams but for the quicky of their dreams -fantasies-.
Personally, I am much better socialising with a small group than with a big group and although I do go to parties, I tend to stick with smaller groups while munching on pre-cut celeries, too ;-)
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